No matter what field, career or business a person is in… there is typically ONE major component that can lead to the success of that person over another of similar ability.
That major component is human relations.
Now I know when you read the words “human relations”, you probably gave a big *YAWN* to me… but trust me, keep reading on… because it’s DEFINITELY not a boring topic. (Trust me!!)
In a nut shell, human relations is the skill that you have in knowing how to handle a difficult person, how to make yourself a more “likeable” person to them, how to win people into your line of thinking and how to lead people.
Can you see how this can help you get ahead in life?
In fact, I promise you… you can take two people, of the same age… of the same skill set… with the same education… at the same job… and the person who has the better human relation skills will literally SKYROCKET past the poor schmuck who doesn’t know how to talk to or communicate with others.
Over the course of the next few weeks… I am going to give tips and secrets in how you can make new friends wherever you go.
Almost everything I learned about making new friends and human relations… I learned from Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends & Influence People”. Even though this book was published when the dinosaurs roamed the earth… it still has the BEST content of any book I have EVER read on the subject. 😉
Even if you aren’t looking to make new friends… the skills that you are going to learn from the blog posts in this ‘How to Make New Friends’ series are going to be cutting edge — and will enable you to handle people in the RIGHT way and like you!
…and the fact of the matter is that in this life, people do business with people they like and trust. People do favors for people they like and trust. Bosses promote employees whom they like and trust to higher paying positions.
If people in general do not like you, do not trust you, can’t communicate with you or don’t feel comfortable being around you — you will not get anywhere in life.
Life is GOOOOOD for the person who is a likeable character knows how to talk to people and handle people.
Don’t you want to make sure you’re in that category…?
TIP #1 – Become genuinely interested in other people.
If you want to make new friends, the first tip is to become genuinely interested in other people. People are like dogs when it comes to sniffing out people who are truly interested in them.
Have you ever been in a conversation with anybody (friend, stranger, co-worker, etc.)… and during the span of your conversation… you get the numb-feeling that this person could care less about you.
You start to feel this way for many reasons:
a- The conversation may be based solely around them and they don’t even ask any questions about you… or perhaps they don’t even let you get a word in.
b- When you do speak… the person may not look you in the eyes… or they may “appear” like they are not listening to a single word that you are saying.
c- You may say something to a person… and based on their response back to you… you can tell they weren’t listening to you.
The list goes on…
Unless you are a person of great clout or fame in your area of expertise… people will generally only become interested in you and what you’re saying… AFTER you have showed interest in them and what they are saying.
What this means is that when you are having a conversation with a new person you want to befriend… it is ALWAYS in your best interest to base the conversation around them by asking them open-ended questions about themselves.
Ask them about their kids. Ask them about their jobs. Admire their past successes and let them know that you admire what they’ve achieved.
Whatever you can do to get a person talking about themselves in a positive manner… is one GREAT way for you to befriend new people.
But do make sure to be genuine about your interest in that person. If someone has a hideous looking sweater on… don’t ramble on about how beautiful that sweater is… find something else about that person that you have at least a slight interest in… and talk about that.
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Daily Motivation Coach