You Can’t Live Your Life for Other People

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.

And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”  (Steve Jobs, co-founder and CEO of Apple)

Good day everybody… if you are reading this post at the time of publishing… it’s Monday and I hope you had a most EXCELLENT and PEACEFUL weekend!

Today we’re going to discuss two (2) reasons why you can’t live life for other people… and why it would be totally unfair for you to live life based on others expectations on you.

When you live your life for the sole benefit of others… or if you live your life because you are seeking to meet someone’s approval or make them love you more… you are doing yourself a great disservice.

1. Living Life for Others is Unfair to You

Most of the time we live our lives for others… it is because we are trying to meet and/or exceed others opinions, expectations or benchmarks that they have placed upon us.

Many of a time these people will be the most important people in our lives… people such as our parents, older siblings, teachers… people whom we esteem above ourselves and hold as an authority figure.

The reason why living your life for others is unfair to you… is because for most people, they are living “fake” lives when they live according to others expectations. It’s funny how we focus so MUCH of our attention seeking the approval of these important people in our lives.

And much of the time… this unfair process of us “living life for others” starts from a few events that have happened to us at an early stage in life.

So your father wanted you to play football in high school (even though you hated it, you just wanted to be in the science club).

So your mother forced you to play the violin back when you were 10-years-old (even though you couldn’t distinguish a C-note from an D-flat).

So your older brother never paid you too much attention… and now to this day 20 years later… you are still seeking their approval.

The truth of the matter is that many of these authority figures in our lives (such as parents)… put these high expectations on us… because they are seeking to live life through their children to meet a short-coming that they may have experienced in their own life.

2. Living Life for Others is Unfair to the World

It is such a HUGE blessing to be alive and to be in this world… at this time and at this season… and I really hope you recognize that my friend!

God has blessed us each with 80, 90, possibly even 100+ years on this earth so that we may all live up to our full potential… and so that we may all fulfill our purpose in life while we are here.

I sincerely believe and know this to be a fact: You and I are not here by accident. There is a divine purpose and a cause for each of our existences.

Each of us… in his or her own special and unique way… can effect change on this world in a better way.

…and wouldn’t it be a shame if you or I weren’t able to live up to our special and unique purposes, because we wasted our time living life for others… and not ourselves?

The Solution:

The solution is really simple when you look at it. Stop living life for other people! ;)

If a person’s expectations for you line up with your own expectations for yourself… then that’s fine and dandy.

But if their expectations don’t line up with your own… then too bad, so sad. It’s YOUR life, not their life!

In fact, people at the end of the day will admire you and respect even more… if you stand up for yourself… and become your own man or woman… and live life for yourself.

Have a GREAT day today and remember to live life to the fullest and never stop growing… because the second you stop growing… is that your dreams start dying!

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-Daniel Wiafe
Your Daily Motivation Coach